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Hope has been hard to come by this year. But also ified an important re-addressing of another social illness that has beleaguered humanity for aeons: racism. Like Covid, racism is a dangerous contagion. I have found that there is no other analogy more befitting of the nature and behaviour of racism than a virus. It is covert. Its genius lies in its ability to thrive invisibly. I know this to be true as an African-American woman married to a white British man.
I have considered this, more so than ever, over these recent months as a summer of social unrest unfolded, catalysed by the unlawful killing of a Black man at the hands of the police. Because it was under these very environmental conditions that caused, even those closest around me, to show just how catching racism is, how complex its manifestations are. How it can encroach in even the most loving and safest of spaces. As protests escalated from being a solely US domestic movement to a global one, so the conversations moved from being a publicly debated topic to a private one, dividing families, friends, colleagues, acquaintances and, yes, partners.
For me, being in a mixed race marriage amidst the Black Lives Matter movement this summer sparked difficult conversations at home. It reached the point where discussions with my husband sometimes became heated debates. These protests reminded me of my purpose, and the suppressed emotion I felt passing through life as a Black woman. But his denial of racism even being a possibility in such a hostile interaction was not something I expected, least of all needed, from a man who had vowed to comfort me, love me and protect me.
The political context within which the trials and tribulations of an interracial relationship unfolds is important.
And what I quickly came to realise is that you can still love someone who is as Black as you are white and still make racial assumptions. Love does not exempt us from unconscious biases. Its proponents — inked with swastika tattoos — epitomise this. I believe this is where the majority sit.
It is within these grey and nuanced areas that real racial problems flourish. Then there are those who genuinely believe themselves to not be racist.Multicultural Couples Talk About Race, Marriage and Love - Love Without Borders S1 EP1 - BRIDES
What the summer of global protests did was snuff the covert out. It held up an uncomfortable mirror of reality for many who were finally confronted by the shallow limits of their intolerance. No one wants to be tarred with the same brush as those who sit on the fringes of hate. But I do not think there should be any shame in admitting our own shortcomings. Every single one of us holds unconscious biases to some degree. And making that admission from the onset is fundamental to dismantling systemic racism. This year has prompted many others, just like my husband and me, to consider what it means to be in an interracial relationship, walking hand in hand in a world coloured by Trumpism.
Our views differ on the Black Lives Matter movement. For me, it was re-traumatising. Negotiating these differences is not supposed to be an easy process. It can unify us, make relationships stronger, if only we can acknowledge what divides us first.
Meanwhile, her husband Doug Emhoff is set to become the first Second Gentleman and first Jewish spouse of a president or vice president. Harris personifies unity. Arguably, Harry and Meghan aside, I believe they will become one of the most symbolic interracial couples in the US. Written by Smith and her husband Alex Court, it is is an eye-opening of race and relationships today.
It is available exclusively on Audible now.
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