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Or dating as a single parentdad or mom.

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Red Flags, we like to call them. And perhaps our unfinished healing might keep us from starting the dating process again. I will admit that getting back out there, for me, as a man, initially was about sex. Today, I think sex can get in the way of learning if you like the person. Get to know if you like talking to, as well as looking at your potential partner.

But if you slow the drive to the bedroom you might avoid getting mixed up in something purely physical. It can blur your vision when trying to figure out if you want to hang with this person for the long run.

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Half my life is behind me. I have two beautiful. In several online dates I found myself sitting across the table from very attractive, usually younger, women who had nearly nothing in common with me.

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I could see myself eyeing their bodies and trying to imagine the sex, but I stopped myself, pretty quickly, even with the fantasizing. It takes a lot to get to a second date with me. I want my next relationship to start out with the potential going the long distance.

Games of any kind are an immediate timeout. In fact, I prefer the hard questions. I will always try to answer honestly. And I usually share this concept on the first date. Maybe this explains a lack of second dates.

Here it is. Two dogs meet up in a park. Either 1. I think some of this is hardwired. We need to have intellectual compatibility. We need to synchronize our schedules over time. If that IS what you are looking for, go for it. Men are often accused of not feeling their feelings. And, in fact, feelings can be scary for both men and women. The beauty of that is feelings include the ability to fully love.

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There might have been a disconnect on those terms in my marriage. I know that I feel deeply and I enjoy being expressive of those feelings. If feelings scare you, that might be something for you to look at. Feelings are the key to compatibility, in my opinion.

I wait enthusiastically. Yes, I selected these potential dates and knew their age, and also that they had not ever had children. My post shows some of my learnings as a result of these mistakes. My one girlfriend since divorce was a couple years older. This is one I try to cover in the post in several different ways. If this is the case, we are not a fit. I agree with many of the things you say are wrong between the relationships between men and women. I am not an apologist for the cultural norms that have stacked the deck against those of us who are trying to elevate the discussion about it all.

Our culture feeds on extremism. And it has an effect on all of us, adults and teenagers. The discussion I am hoping to facilitate is the antithesis of these issues. We learn. We evolve. I am hoping to get better, clearer, and more honest with each attempt at being in a relationship. I really do appreciate you taking a chance and voicing your opinion. We men and women need to have more frank discussions about desire, sexual preferences, and how we want to relate to each other in and out of the bedroom.

It was my realization that we had nothing in common yes we seemed to have a lot of spark on text messages and via once we were sitting at a table together. It was a moment of finding myself, not discovering that she was younger. I understand the knee-jerk reaction. There are just as many women in online dating who do the exact same thing. Again, that is not what I am looking for. And sex is way off in the future, for ME.

What she might be thinking, her motivations for sitting at the table are for us to discover, hopefully, via clear and honest communication. There are no obligations to continue. But I get excited every time I talk to someone new. I can offer new perspectives and experiences from my post-divorce dating journey.

Most of all, I can offer hope. I appreciate the feedback. And I want that in my next relationship too. Um… where do you live? Thank you for your comment. Some days I feel strong about writing this stuff, some days I feel small and threatened. Thank you for this article. We only get to see each other every couple of weeks, so we have no choice but to take things slowly.

We did break a couple of your rules sex before an exclusive relationship. He and I felt an incredible chemistry and intellectual compatibility immediately, both online and in person. As soon we met face to face within two weeks of our initial contact we knew we would be physically intimate in the near future.

However, I do have to disagree with you on one point…not all single men and women who are not parents made a conscious decision to not have. I do not have children myself, but I was a caregiver for my elderly parents for most of my adult life, That was my main reason for not having children, so I understand the pressures of caring and providing for a family.

However, some are childless because of health issues…others may have had the decision made for them by their exes. And yes, others may have decided to not have kids for selfish reasons. Find out more about the person before you write them off. While I would love to meet his children, I will not until he and I agree the time is right…which is when and if we have decided to be exclusive, live together or get married.

There is no point in becoming attached to the kids if there is no future. The rest of your rules are spot on. Be honest and straightforward. Thank you for your heartfelt response. And I have heard this comment more than once, so I know you are spot on with some situations. And I guess, my bias towards moms only comes from my limited experience with non-moms. I would not exclude a woman with potential just because she did not have.

I think, in my experience, the two women I met via online dating, back in the Spring, were both attractive potential chemistry but perhaps a bit too self-involved for my taste. Sometimes, at a certain age, if an adult does not have kids, they define their focus in life around things like fitness, or entertainment. And while those things are definitely a part of my constellation as well, they take a second row seat to my love and duties as a single dad.

I also agree that introducing kids too early would be hard for all involved. But I know it can greatly reduce the chance for unnecessary attachments. I am excited about the idea that my son and daughter would have another loving person in their lives.

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Again, thank you so much for your comment. The dialogue between men and women is more to the point. Thanks for making this point, Lizzie.

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I wanted to post the same — not to write off all childless women.

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