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If you're not sure what you want out of life, there is only one question you must ask yourself. And the answer might surprise you. E verybody wants what feels good. Everyone wants to live a carefree, happy and easy life, to fall in love and have amazing sex and relationships, to look perfect and make money, and be popular and well-respected and admired and a total baller to the point that people part like the Red Sea when you walk into the room. What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
People want to be rich without the riskwithout the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth. Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship —but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings, and the emotional psychodrama to get there.
And so they settle. Happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative.Billie Eilish - everything i wanted (Audio)
You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life. At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. Positive experience is easy to handle.
People want an amazing physique. People want to start their own business or become financially independent. People want a partner, a spouse. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.
Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. Because if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the beach body, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off one person or ten thousand. If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasyan idealization, an image, a false promise.
Because you have to choose something. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have similar answers. The more interesting question is the pain.
What is the pain that you want to sustain? That answer will actually get you somewhere. For most of my adolescence and young adulthood, I fantasized about being a musician—a rock star, in particular. Any badass guitar song I heard, I would always close my eyes and envision myself up onstage playing it to the screams of the crowd, people absolutely losing their minds to my sweet finger-noodling.
This fantasy could keep me occupied for hours on end. The fantasizing continued through college, even after I dropped out of music school and stopped playing seriously. I was biding my time before I could invest the proper amount of time and effort into getting out there and making it work. First, I needed to finish school. Then, I needed to make money. Then, I needed to find the time. Then… nothing. Despite fantasizing about this for over half of my life, the reality never came.Billie Eilish - everything i wanted (Audio)
And because of that, I failed at it. I hardly tried at all. The daily drudgery of practicing, the logistics of finding a group and rehearsing, the pain of finding gigs and actually getting people to show up and give a shit. The broken strings, the blown tube amp, hauling 40 pounds of gear to and from rehearsals with no car. I just liked to imagine the top. End of story. I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love not with the fight, but only the victory. Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.
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